Through the Looking Glass
Imagine this–You are standing outside a house you want to buy, you look at the garden, the porch, the structure, the doorways, the windows, is it on the right street? Or you can go inside the house and see the bedrooms, the kitchen, the bathrooms, the kind of closets…
Introspection happens when people look inwards into themselves and discover their own thoughts, feelings and motives, where as outward focus makes you look at what other people are doing, why is it happening in their life, success, etc.
Most people believe that “I am aware of my thoughts and feelings, no big deal about it!” but the truth of the matter is that it is not used when it is required and used for mundane things or when there has been an extremely traumatic incident. Even in a traumatic incident, an individual usually does not focus on actual thoughts, but berates him/herself or lives in regret or in guilt.
The true essence of introspection is to understand the motive or the importance behind why we are thinking and feeling a particular way. You may ask, why is it important? Life is still fine and going okay.
The question you need to ask yourself is: “Am I okay with ‘fine’? Am I okay with things just going on, with obstacles just coming and going like a broken record?” Practically, introspection should be used on a regular basis, as it gives people clarity of thought, it makes one feel more peaceful about why they are getting into situations they are in, that awareness lets one know what is working and what is not. By doing so, it creates a ripple effect in life, which starts putting everything in perspective and makes life easy and achievable.
Ask these questions to yourself once in a month to know where you are heading.
- What is something you know you do differently than most people?
- Are you doing what you believe in or are you settling for what you are doing?3. Are you more worried about doing things right, or doing the right things?
- Decisions are being made right now. The question is: Are you making them for yourself, or are you letting others make them for you?